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Goodbye, Rowley 
17th-Jul-2009 10:13 pm
Me: shadow against sand under ripples
I’ve had a lot stacked up to post about lately, but the only thing to talk about right now is that plumtreeblossom’s cat Rowley is dead.

As I’ve said, he’s been up and down for the last few months, and was clearly getting close to the end of his ninth life. But the past few days he’d been perking up a bit.

On the train on my way to meet my friend (K.) for coffee, I got a call from plumtreeblossom. She had gotten home, and Rowley had greeted her at the door and seemed attentive and lucid (which has been on and off lately). But just about five minutes after she got in the door, he started to have trouble and discomfort with his hind legs and tail, and over the course of a few minutes they were completely paralyzed, and he was clearly terrified and in serious pain or discomfort. That’s when plumtreeblossom called me. I was going to meet K. in Porter Square, so I ended up just stopping by at the café and letting her and her partner know what was going on and apologizing for cancelling plans. She kindly offered to drive us and Rowley to the vet if need be, but I was able to schedule a Zipcar, so I just took her up on a ride to plumtreeblossom’s house, where Rowley was making noises I’d never heard from him before. Poor cat.

So we got him in the cat carrier (sadly much easier than usual) and got him to Angell Memorial.

We’d been expecting that he’d keep getting better and worse and better an worse and eventually instead of getting better he might just die at home — whenever she comes home, plumtreeblossom has been bracing himself to find him dead.

I hadn’t really thought about putting him down, because so far, even when he hasn’t been lucid or eating he hasn’t seemed in much apparent pain or misery. But this was different. Even if we could get him through the paralysis, it wasn’t a normal quality of life he’d be coming back to. So we were both pretty clear that it was time to put him down.

The vet at Angell said (and this had been my guess, just because it was the only thing I’d heard of that caused this sort of sudden paralysis) that he’d thrown a blood clot, and she agreed that euthanizing him was the right thing to do. (I suppose the most helpful thing for a vet to do in that situation is to be supportive of whatever decision the animal’s people have made, at least if it’s a reasonable one, but she seemed pretty sincere.) The people and especially the vet were as supportive as they could be, and the environment was great, and we got to be with him in a homey little room with couches while he died, and take as much time as we wanted with his body. And we cried and held each other and stroked him as he died.

I love you, sweet Row-Row. And I love you, dear plumtreeblossom, and I am so glad that the logistics worked out so that I could be with you so quickly and stay with you through this.
18th-Jul-2009 03:07 am (UTC)
Losing a pet hurts, no matter the circumstances.

If it helps, the vet would have brought up any reasonable alternative that she thought made sense. My regrets to you both.
18th-Jul-2009 11:16 am (UTC)
Thank you.
18th-Jul-2009 03:11 am (UTC)

I'm sorry.
18th-Jul-2009 11:16 am (UTC)
Thank you.
18th-Jul-2009 03:32 am (UTC)
*hug* I'm sorry for your loss. A pet can be a friend and a member of the family; losing one always hurts.

Rowley was lucky to have had such attentive and caring people to look out for him, ones who prolonged his life as long as it was worth living and ended it the moment it wasn't.
18th-Jul-2009 03:35 am (UTC)
What they said. And you got to be with him and her and be together and share that last, sweet huggle time.
18th-Jul-2009 03:38 am (UTC)
Oh dear :( I'm sorry.
18th-Jul-2009 11:19 am (UTC)
Thanks. We’re doing pretty well.
18th-Jul-2009 03:49 am (UTC)
I expressed my condolensces to plumtreeblossom but will give them to you as well. I am so sorry. We will all miss him dearly.
18th-Jul-2009 11:21 am (UTC)
Thank you! And thanks for thinking of him the other day. plumtreeblossom’s doing pretty well.
18th-Jul-2009 03:58 am (UTC)
This is pretty much the way I lost Gwydion (though the vet didn't mention a clot as cause of the paralysis).

I know how hard this is. My sympathy to you both.
18th-Jul-2009 11:21 am (UTC)
Thank you. When did Gwydion die?
18th-Jul-2009 04:16 am (UTC)
Damn. Sorry to hear this. *hugs* to both of you.
18th-Jul-2009 11:21 am (UTC)
Thanks! We’re doing OK. Hugs back to you!
18th-Jul-2009 04:39 am (UTC)
I am so sad for Plumtreeblossom. Rowley was a lucky cat to have her for a friend.
18th-Jul-2009 11:25 am (UTC)
Yes, he was! And I’m lucky too, and so is Benjamin (her other cat).

By the time we went to bed last night, she was doing pretty well. She's resilient.

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18th-Jul-2009 11:30 am (UTC)
Thank you.
We went through something similar this week.
Oh, I’m sorry to hear that! I just looked at the pictures you linked from your journal; she was a very pretty and photogenic cat!
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18th-Jul-2009 11:30 am (UTC)
Thank you; hugs gratefully received!
18th-Jul-2009 03:37 pm (UTC)
Sorry for your loss; I'm sure he couldn't have had a better life with you all. It sucks that they don't live forever! Or at least outlast us....
18th-Jul-2009 08:30 pm (UTC)
Thank you! When he was so skinny the last couple of months, we were thinking of spacechicken and Bevin’s cat Mister, who we were lucky enough to have sleep with us on a visit shortly before he died.
18th-Jul-2009 07:20 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear it. I'm glad you could be there.
18th-Jul-2009 08:31 pm (UTC)
Thank you.
18th-Jul-2009 07:58 pm (UTC)
It sucks when someone you love dies, but it sucks even more when he's scared and in pain and you can't do anything about it. I've been there for those decisions and I'm glad you had each other for support.

I'm very sorry for your loss, and please give my condolences to plumtreeblossom; although I've never met either of them I almost feel like I have from reading your journal and the stories you've told. Hugs to you both.
18th-Jul-2009 08:36 pm (UTC)
Thanks. It was a sad and painful thing to do, but it wasn’t a hard decision to make. I will pass your condolences along to plumtreeblossom, and I hope sometime you can meet her (and maybe Benjamin, her surviving cat).

Speaking of pets we’ve met, do you still have sugar gliders?
19th-Jul-2009 12:22 am (UTC)
I am sorry for your loss.
19th-Jul-2009 05:49 pm (UTC)
Thank you.
19th-Jul-2009 12:35 pm (UTC)
My sympathies on your loss.
19th-Jul-2009 05:50 pm (UTC)
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