Oh, this is a hard one! I’m very visual, and a huge amount of my life is mediated through reading and writing, and I love visual art and natural beauty — in which latter category I number many people of my acquaintance. But it would be so hard to give up conversations and music, or the feel of a lover against me. (I’d manage a lot more easily without smell or taste, but losing those would be tragedies too.)
Interesting that I seem to have reinterpreted this as “If I could only keep one of my senses, which one would I keep?” Since that’s not actually what the question was, I’ll stick with my first thought and say that sight is my favourite sense.
What trait do you wish you posessed that you don't in this incarnation?
More energy and better organizational skills (or more hours in the day). Basically, I don’t have the energy or time to do all the things I want to do with my life. Being independently wealthy would work, too.
Favorite reading material?
Lately, Patrick O’Brian’s Aubrey/Maturin historical novels. In general, nonfiction, especially science, history, and anthropology. I read a lot of science fiction and fantasy (but I can’t stand the stuff that straddles the middle!), a fair amount of horror (and I’m quite fond of the stuff that straddles the boundary between fantasy and horror), and a fair amount of modern “mainstream” fiction. I’ve recently been introduced to Charles de Lint, and so far I like the ideas and scenarios, but don’t much care for the language and writing style. I love fiction whose language is exquisitely crafted, like Tolkein or Mervyn Peake or Anne Tyler or Ray Bradbury or Ursula LeGuin. You know, the more I type, the less of an answer I’m giving, so I’ll go ahead and say historical fiction (although I haven’t read that much of it). And all the other stuff I mentioned, and lots of stuff I haven’t mentioned. :-)
How has your family shaped you?
My mother taught me to think, to question, to read, and to hope. My father, for all his faults, helped teach me a reverence for learning and for books. (He also gave me some negative examples for how to treat other people and how to deal with stress.) My sister taught me to dream and to aspire to reach my dreams (which is not a lesson I’ve learned very well, I’m afraid). My stepfather is a positive example of how to treat other people, and of grace, style, and civility.
I have a handful of other people I could answer this about, chosen family over the years, but I should be in bed already. (Besides, I’m starting to cry. Trust me, it takes a really self-confident top to say that. :-)
and last but not least, gakked from dancingwolfgrrl What's on your list of things to do before you die?
I don’t really have one of those. There are a lot of things I would like to do, like raise a child, write books, live with a life partner or partners again, travel extensively abroad, somehow figure out how to squeeze all the people I care about and all the things I want to do and to learn into the hours I have, own a house that’s just mine, make a difference in the politics of my region or country or planet and make the lives of the other people on my planet a little bit better, make life a bit easier for the next generation of poly people (or bi people or kinky people, or for that matter monogamous vanilla straight people), learn to draw, learn to sing or play or even just read music, learn more languages and get familiar with their literatures, and on and on. A few of those are even things I’m consciously working towards. But that’s not really a checklist I’m trying to get done. If I got enough of those things done, new things would just appear on the list. I wouldn’t want everything on my list to get crossed off; that would feel too much like being dead.
Comment if you’d like me to come up with five questions for you (although it might take me a while to get around to it).